Lesbian relationships often prioritize "merging"—a deep emotional and psychological closeness. While beautiful, sexual desire often requires a degree of "otherness" or autonomy. When two people feel like the same person, the erotic tension can dissipate. 3. Lack of Social Scripts
The term itself, coined in the 1980s, can create a self-fulfilling prophecy. The pressure to disprove the stereotype or the anxiety that a natural "ebb" in a long-term relationship is actually "the end" can create a cycle of stress that inhibits desire. 2. High Levels of Emotional Intimacy 8. Mental Health and Stress
Fluctuations in hormones—due to menstrual cycles, birth control, menopause, or health conditions like PCOS—can significantly impact libido. Since both partners are subject to these cycles, they can sometimes "sync" into periods of low desire. 8. Mental Health and Stress coined in the 1980s