If you want more affection, start being more affectionate without expecting an immediate return.
To change the dynamic, you must first change your behavior. "Acting as if" means behaving like the version of you who is already in a happy, secure marriage.
List five things you originally loved about your partner. Energy Check: Are you radiating resentment or hope? 2. The Power of "Acting As If"
Fill your own cup. When you are happy independently, you take the "pressure" off your spouse to be your sole source of joy. 4. Use Scripting for Your Future