The Gordon Neufeld Approach: Making Sense Of Ch... -

Detailed in his book Hold On to Your Kids (co-authored with Gabor Maté), Neufeld warns that children are increasingly turning to peers for attachment, which undermines parental influence and healthy development. Neufeld Intensive I: Making Sense of Kids

The , often encapsulated in his flagship Making Sense of Kids intensive, is an attachment-based developmental model that shifts the focus from managing a child's behavior to understanding the underlying relational and developmental needs. The Gordon Neufeld Approach: Making Sense of Ch...

Dr. Neufeld’s model is built on three distinct but interconnected lenses used to "map" a child’s development: Detailed in his book Hold On to Your

The process of becoming a separate, viable, and integrated individual. The approach argues that maturation is spontaneous if conditions are conducive, rather than something that can be forced. Neufeld’s model is built on three distinct but

Unlike behavioral approaches that use "consequences" or "time-outs," the Neufeld approach views the parent-child relationship as the primary tool for change.

Below is an overview of the core principles typically covered in a paper on this approach. 1. The Three Conceptual Keys

For a child to feel safe, they must be in a "dependent" role, while the parent takes the "alpha" or provider role. Problems like bullying often stem from a "stuck" alpha complex in children who don't feel they can lean on their adults.