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Focus on what you need (character, reliability, kindness) rather than what you think you should have.

In her book Tracy McMillan provides a "straight talk" guide designed to help women identify internal blind spots that may be preventing them from securing a committed relationship. The core premise is that marriage is less about "finding" the right person and more about "becoming" the person who can sustain a partnership. The Solid Guide: 6 Core Shifts Based on McMillan's insights,

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Communicate directly. If you feel the need to retaliate for perceived slights, you are acting out of fear rather than love.

Learn that being "nice"—which includes kindness, laughter, and vulnerability—is a position of strength, not weakness. Focus on what you need (character, reliability, kindness)

You may be lying to yourself or others about what you actually want.

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McMillan’s "The person you really need to marry" provides the philosophical foundation for this guide—marrying yourself first.